A blueprint for New Zealand intergenerational financial success
The 'Bank of Mum and Dad' (BOMAD) has become a significant, albeit unofficial, New Zealand financial institution. Especially for many first-time homebuyers, a helping hand from parents can be the crucial difference between dreaming and doing. But just like any serious financial venture, approaching BOMAD requires careful thought, clear communication, and an aligned plan to ensure it benefits everyone involved and fosters, rather than hinders, long-term financial independence.
Gone are the days when a casual handshake sealed major financial agreements. Today, with rising property prices and the ever-present cost of living, BOMAD is moving beyond pocket money into substantial contributions.
It is now widely accepted that if BOMAD were a bank it would be New Zealand’s fifth largest, behind the “Big Four” banks: ANZ, ASB, Westpac, and BNZ. BOMAD’s current funding pool dwarfs many smaller banks, and even outstrips lenders like Kiwibank and TSB combined.
According to research from Finder, nearly 60% of first home buyers in New Zealand receive some form of financial assistance from BOMAD.
The sheer scale of this phenomenon underscores its importance. The Productivity Commission estimates that over the next two decades, a staggering $3.5 trillion in wealth is expected to transfer from older generations to younger ones, predominantly from housing assets. This intergenerational transfer, when managed wisely, can be a powerful catalyst for wealth creation across the family.
While the primary benefit of BOMAD often appears to be financial, the true value extends far beyond the dollar signs. For adult children, it can mean entering the property market sooner, potentially years earlier than those without such support. It can also mean a stronger financial footing post-purchase, with 41% of Australians receiving help reporting more savings after buying their first home. We think New Zealand data, which is harder to come by, would tell the same story.
For parents, providing support can offer immense satisfaction, knowing they are helping their children secure a brighter financial future. However, it's not without its considerations. While three quarters of parents providing deposit assistance don’t commonly expect repayment, suggesting a shift towards gifting, it's vital that parents ensure their own financial security isn't jeopardised. After all, you can't pour from an empty cup, especially not a cup that was supposed to fund your retirement cruises!
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If you don’t have the financial backing of BOMAD behind you, remember your financial journey is still entirely within your control. This is where true self-reliance shines. Focus on the powerful levers you can pull: rigorously budget, maximising your savings rate, boost your income, and relentlessly upskill to progress your career and financial literacy.
It might not be easy, and your path might look different from those with BOMAD, but every dollar saved, and every smart financial decision made is a brick in your own foundation. Embrace the challenge, be resourceful, and know that for you, building your wealth, brick by hard-earned brick, will lead to an even deeper sense of ownership and accomplishment. Your destiny is in your hands.
While the name BOMAD sounds light-hearted, the decisions involved can be anything but.
Unlike traditional banks, BOMAD rarely requires a credit check, legal agreement, or repayment plan. What could possibly go wrong?
BOMAD support can take various forms, each with its own implications and best practices:
Regardless of the method chosen, clarity and legal documentation are your best friends. Formal agreements and independent legal advice are vital to protect all parties involved. This foresight helps avoid potentially family-destroying future misunderstandings.
For both parents and adult children, maximising the benefits of BOMAD means focusing on:
The rise of BOMAD is a testament to the enduring love and support within families. However, it also highlights broader societal challenges around housing affordability and financial literacy. By approaching BOMAD with a practical and transparent mindset, both parents and adult children can transform what might otherwise be a well-intentioned but haphazard exchange into an engine for intergenerational wealth and sustained financial well-being.
Done well, BOMAD can catapult the next generation into home ownership, relieve pressure, and build long-term wealth across generations.
But done poorly, it can create resentment, risk, and long-term regrets.
Whether you're a parent considering how best to support your children, or an adult child looking to maximise the opportunities presented by BOMAD, professional guidance is invaluable. At Become Wealth, our experienced mortgage advisers and financial planners work with both sides of the BOMAD equation. Whether you're giving or receiving, we can provide tailored advice and support, ensuring your financial decisions are well-informed and aligned with your long-term goals. Get in touch with our team to book your complimentary initial consultation.